Laurie Anderson — The Release of Love

The thing that's forbidden by the Tibetan Book of the Dead is crying.     Crying is not allowed   because it's supposedly confusing to the dead   and you don't want to summon them back, because they actually can't come back.   So, no crying.   When Lolabelle died, our teacher said, "Every time you think of her, give something away or do something kind."   And I said, "Then I’d be giving things away nonstop."     And he said, "So?"   And it took me so long to figure it out, because death is so often about regrets or guilt.   'Why didn't I call her? Why didn't I say that?"   It's more about you than the person who died.   But finally I saw it - the connection between love and death   and that the purpose of death is the release of love.